This Ice Aint Cool - Not Even Slightly

The ugly side of city living


I love my city. It is one of the best looking cities in the world. Sure, I’m biased, but it does consistently win awards for being a good looking city. But like any city, it has an Ugly Side. This side is usually hidden behind walls, under bridges or by unspoken agreements. But the ugly side hopped onto the bus on Sunday, while I was showing relatives from interstate the beauty Sydney has to offer.

The Ugly Side came dressed as a late 20’s man, wearing carefully torn jeans, off white leather shoes, a pink shirt and a matching tie. The shirt colour was up, and spread, so the tie was merely a prop. The Ugly Side scoped the bus out from behind dark wrap around sunglasses then plonked himself into a seat near the middle.

I was riding up the back with by wife, my brother and his wife and their two kids, R aged 10 and J aged 4. Sitting four or five seats in front of us was a mid-20’s woman, intently reading a book and with her ears firmly plugged by an Ipod.

After the bus got underway, the Ugly Side moved up and sat next to the young woman. At first, I thought he was asking for directions but then realised he was hitting on her and hard. He took his sunglasses off to look at her. In doing so, he glanced over this shoulder at me. His eyes were pinned and red. He was off his face on something and my guess was Ice, judging from his almost manic behaviour.

As it was two o’clock on a Sunday afternoon, the woman wasn’t having any of his nonsense and told him so. I thought he took the hint when he moved to a seat across the aisle from her. But apparently all he was doing was gaining a little distance so he could really hurl his ugliness at her.

At first I thought he was joking with her. Then I realised he was abusing her in the worst possible way. I glanced at my nephew to see if he was listening but thankfully, he had fallen into a doze. Toni had noticed, though. Remember, my wife is the woman who shamed a man into getting off a train after he played touchy-feely with her. She has no tolerance for perverts or letches. This guy was definitely a letch.

She said with her eyes she was going to report the ugliness to the driver. I looked at my brother who, at this stage, was trying to calm down his daughter. She HAD heard. My niece is a gorgeous, intelligent 10 year who is very, very sensitive. She was fast becoming upset. My brother asked us not to do anything. He was scared for his wife and kids. He was also scared for himself.

It was at this moment, the ugly side turned his gaze to us. He said something, addled and nonsensical. I tried to brush it off, to draw the ugliness away from the others. I only succeeded in causing the rabid bull in him to charge me. His verbal attack was over-the-top, loud and completely unnecessary. But sometimes you have to engage to disengage.

All I wanted to do was purge the ugliness from the bus. But this action would have upset everyone even more. So I did the only thing I could do; I ignored him. I didn’t look at him, I didn’t say anything more. After a while, he tried apologising for his behaviour, tried to explain it was the girl’s fault, tried to make out like he wasn’t a bad bloke.

I continued to ignore him. I wanted to do something much nastier, much uglier but there was no way I wanted to stoop to his level. I averted my eyes, I held my wife and smiled at my nephew, who’d slept through the whole incident. I only wish my niece had too.

Every city has an Ugly Side. Every city has dark secrets buried under cobblestones and covered up by tarmac. Every city has skeletons in it’s closets and rats in it’s drains. Most of the time, we can ride and rise above it all. Sometimes we have to cross the street to avoid it. Sometimes it hides in alleyways and jumps us when we least expect it. And sometimes it rides the bus at 2 pm on a sunny Sunday afternoon. It is a shame but sometimes, it is unavoidable.
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Reply #1 Top
Sorry, I woulda slugged him.
Reply #2 Top
Sorry for you and for your family. Difficult situation that.

If the situation wasn't on the bus, I'd have lured him away, where he didn't have an audience.
Sadly, all our cities have become hostage to crank and crack. I remember better times.
Glad you could vent a little about it though.
Reply #3 Top
We have a saying for assholes in the jail, maso.

dogs barking.

That's all they really are when they're running their mouth. We just keep walking by 'em and laugh and loudy say "Bark little doggie!" (that REALLY pisses 'em off!)

Sadly, all our cities have become hostage to crank and crack.


true, and for what I've observed, crack cocaine is better than crank any day by far.
Reply #5 Top
Sorry, I woulda slugged him.


I'd probably have the same urge.

~Zoo
Reply #6 Top
I'd probably have the same urge.


gotta watch that -ya never know if these nimrods are carrying!
Reply #7 Top
Mason,

Sorry, I woulda slugged him.


Ah, don't be sorry, mate. Despite me being non-violent person, I wanted to smack him as well.

Don,

our cities have become hostage to crank and crack


I'm guessing crank is your euphemism for crystal meth. Sydney is suffering the same malady as a lot of cities around the world. Crank, ice, crystal meth or whatever it is called where one is from, is creating a generation of people who are going to be nothing but a burden on us all. It is truly scary stuff.

Glad you could vent a little about it though


Yeah, me too.

Shovel,

I don't think I could have traded insults with him without trading punches as well. The worst thing about the whole incident is I felt so fucking useless. Really, I just wanted to jump up and smash this guy for terrorising the poor woman, for scaring my wife and particularly for making my niece cry (she is my god daughter as well). But I had to sit there and use all my meditative powers not to do anything.

I liked what I said so much i had to say it twice...


Its okay, mate. I'll take the points

Zoo,

I'd probably have the same urge


It would have been hard for any decent bloke not to have this urge but these 'tweekers' feel no pain and can inflict hellacious damage on themselves and others before being stopped.
Reply #8 Top
Ugly people do not an ugly city make.  Even Rose's have thorns.  I understand the urge to pop him, but like Shovel pointed out, you never know what these addicts are carrying.
Reply #9 Top

I wonder why the girl with the book and ipod didn't thrash him?

I think you did the right thing, for the most part, for several reasons.

1.  He was doped up.  It really never does any good to confront someone when they're high.  It just escalates things.

2.  You probably woulda went to jail right along with him if it came to blows.  And that would be a horrible way to spend time with the family, or er, not spend time with them.

3.  You or yours coulda been really hurt.  Like mentioned before, the guy coulda carried a weapon of some kind.  If so, there is no way to know who he'd hurt to "win."

The only part of me that thinks you should say something, is the part that has been attacked in public and everyone just watched.  But that was physical, and this is diff. 

Reply #10 Top
That's a horrible situation to experience! Your poor neice, I hope it didn't have any after effects for her.

You did the right thing in standing down. I know you would have loved to wipe the floor with him!
Reply #11 Top
Doc,

Ugly people do not an ugly city make


You and I both know this. I am hoping my brother and his family know it too.

Tova,

the part that has been attacked in public and everyone just watched


I think this is the part that bothered me the most. I'm not macho, not by a long shot, but I really wanted to defend the poor girl and, more importantly, show my niece that nasty people don't win. Sure, there is a great deal of difference, but the line between was very fine.

Serenity,

I hope it didn't have any after effects for her


Me too, Donna. I think this is my biggest concern. She is such a sensitive girl, I don't want her having nightmares about this.

You did the right thing


Thanks, I think now I did too.
Reply #12 Top
move along folks, the drama's over... and you! Hey, yeah I'm talkin' to you there with the fedora and guitar! Write something!

 )
Reply #13 Top
You are right, there is an ugly side to every city. I'm sorry that happened, especially in front of your neice.

You kept your cool though.
Reply #14 Top
hey, I'm kellyw0498 Woo Hoo
Reply #15 Top

hey, I'm kellyw0498 Woo Hoo

Same old KellyW tho!  I was wondering about that!

Reply #16 Top
Shovel,

Write something


Hmm, the same could be said to you too. Better watch yourself or I'll have to come over there and deal with you.

Kelly,

I'm sorry that happened, especially in front of your neice


Yeah, me too. I did get a bit of chance to say to her, before she left, that people like this exist everywhere, not just in the city and the best thing we can all do is ignore them and not let them affect us. Hopefully, my words soothed her somewhat.

I'm kellyw0498 Woo Hoo


I knew it was you, I recognised you from your picture... No, wait a minute, I mean, erm... Nevermind...      
Reply #17 Top
Mark,

It's horrible your neice had to experience such an ugly thing.

If I was alone I don't know if I could've ignored him. I'm almost certain I would have gone after him especially if he yelled at me, and I am certain I would have been just as loud.

But in your situation I think you did the right thing. If I had Rose with me and my brother and his family I wouldn't want any of them to get hurt so I would've avoided any confrontation. Unless he came at me.
Reply #18 Top
Chris,

You can understand my situation and I guess you can understand my frustration too. In hindsight, as Toni said, we probably should have just got up and moved to the front of the bus when he first started on the girl. But we weren't thinking defensively.

Good to see you, mate.