unchecked NAT in ImpulseReactorOptions.exe and now I can connect.
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Port forwarded and everything with nat checked and ports setup in ImpulseReactorOptions.exe kept me stuck on "waiting for connection details" on all game types.
I uncheck nat in ImpulseReactorOptions.exe with ports forwarded and it works now.
edit: unfortunatly i get test1 people and 0 pings and crashes. nice.