ok so im one of those players who couldnt connect to any custom games after ALL port forwarding efforts
but after this latest beta i can get into lobbys very quickly, and connect to the host 
but this is what happens to me:
when somebody else talks in chat the players name doesnt show up, it just has [ImpulsePlayer]:
everyone else who connects has 0ms, except for the host (they have a normal ping)
also when i check "connection information" it just has my players name and thats it, no other peoples names at all
keep up the good work everyone at stardock!!