I Can't Cry...Is that Bad?

Something must be wrong with me...

from JoeUser Forums
Those of you who know me are quite aware of my lack of crying. You're supposed to cry when your sad, correct? When you're feeling depressed or get horrible news...even when there's so much stress swirling around you in a choking cloud...a tear you may expect yes? With me that is not the case. It appears that even if I try, I can not turn on the water works.

Right now, there is so much shit going on that I can barely keep my head on straight. I've got reports and presentations, prom, people graduating...and worst of all my Grandma sits in a nursing home with dementia slowly eating away what's left of her mind....and that's the first time I've told anyone that. My family is freaking out about it...but me, I sit there and take it in....not one tear. I'm down about it, of course....but no tears. Either I have a capacity for stress or I'm just some genetic anomaly. I used to cry many years ago...but now, nothing. I'd like to think I'm so enlightened as to understand everything and be able to brush negative emotion away...but on the inside I feel as if I should cry. When I'm sad or depressed I'll feel it....but instead of tears I'll get angry, irritable, or just downright pissed. I'm not sure why...is it a blessing or a curse?

Oh well....

~Zoo
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hey Zoo, I don't think that there is anything wrong with you. Everyone deals with things in their own way. It's not bad that you don't cry. I too, went through a time in my life when I didn't cry. It was the worst part of my life, and for some reason, no matter how hard it got, or how much stress came my way, it wasnt enough to make me cry. I say, don't worry about it. Your fine, you just dont cry. Don't sweat it.
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
Zoo~ I have a hard time making the tears come out too, but I don't view it as a problem. I have other ways of expressing my sorrow and anger, it looks like maybe you do too, although you may not know it. Don't worry about it...it's not bad or good, it's just how it is. I'll pray for you and your family with the situation with your grandma if you don't object.

Your Friend,
KINJRUH
Star Control: Origins
Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
I'll pray for you and your family with the situation with your grandma if you don't object.


I don't have a problem with that....thank you.

~Zoo
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
Zoo, I know you don't cry, and I think that's just a part of who you are. I wouldn't worry about not crying. Right now it just doesn't seem like a big deal, compared to what you have going on.

I'll keep your family in my prayers.

NewspeakWordsmith
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
I'll keep your family in my prayers.


Thanks.....always the good friend.

~Zoo
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
Sometimes when someone cries a lot during their younger ages, they have a revelation that crying is not good.
Men sometime got embarrased by themselves when the realized the cried a lot, and that shame simply added to their egos, and thus they dictated themselves to be a non-crying individuals.

But sometimes a man is just born cool.
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top

...is it a blessing or a curse?

Neither, it will come in time. Trust me.

Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
Bless your heart, Zoo. I'm sorry to hear about all that.

All crying is is a release. It's your emotions spilling out of you in a physical way. Not everyone cries...and many men have been taught that crying is weak or something that they should not do, and so they don't. I don't know you well enough to know which one of those applies to you, but you certainly shouldn't stress yourself over the fact that you can't force liquid out of your eyes.

So long as you're finding a healthy way to push out all that stress and pain, whether you cry or not is irrelevant.
Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top
Dont worry...I dont cry either...

So long as you're finding a healthy way to push out all that stress and pain, whether you cry or not is irrelevant


True...so very true
well there you go....a comment with a bag...cant get any better than that
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Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
well there you go....a comment with a bag...cant get any better than that


Heh, heh...thanks Jeffers.

~Zoo