You dont select different mods, if you have more than one mod installed in the game folder they need to play nice together or you are going to have issues.
Leader FGs, BGs, portraits and logos all need to go into their relative folders in \MyDocuments\My Games\GalCiv3\Factions
Frankly SD needed to take a lesson from either Endless space or their own game Sins of a solar empire for the mod interface.