Ya, you need to send in some stuff:

For Multiplayer Desyncs:

If you're playing a multiplayer game and desync, make sure that:

1. That nobody is using a mod - or - that everyone is using the same mod and version.
2. That you can reproduce the issue from your last save game or autosave.

If you can reproduce the desync, please see this thread for how to help us track down the issue: https://forums.sinsofasolarempire.com/415093. Please include as much detail as you can on what appears to be causing the issue or when it occurs. If the desync is caused only with a mod, we recommend you contact the mod author.

Hey,

I have to retract this posting.  We figured out what was causing the issues. thankfully it was not the beta.

The one friend wh owas getting desynced, well he didnt realize that he still had his VPN on. so he was being routed  through Dallas then over to Little Rock and then back to Texarkana.  So after he turned off the VPN all was well.

In fact we played a 4 hour game against the AI and it ran smoothyl, no slow downs or pauses.

I do have issues to report but that will be another post.