I'm really trying to refrain from being paranoid
not hard enough...
I am aware of the fact that I have days where I'm a colossal bitch; I don't see things logically, maturely, or even correctly--things get messed up in my head as to how I perceive them and how they actually are
...quoted from the apology with the shortest 'use by date' in WC history.
quoted from WebGizmos reply....
"One thing I have always done on this site is this. If I read a comment...whether it's left for me or someone else...that for whatever reason rubs me the wrong way...I'll write my reply in notepad and let it sit...maybe write some more and let it sit...maybe even for a day..."
Excellent advice from WebGizmos....it's what I have done since day one of these forums....it's what I would continually emphasise to Tailsgirl during so much time spent trying to counsel her to get her through her manic days, if you're having a manic day....step away from the computer......sadly, she was never able to grasp it. The difference between you and Tailsgirl...is she was on self destruct....you seem to be on community destruct....
I appreciate and am sympathetic to the issue of mental health...we have all had to deal with it at some stage..whether in families...friends...the workplace....but I am tired of it being used as an excuse for bad behaviour in the community...
Over years we have had the bad behaviour posts...followed by the apology posts...then another round.....people should stop using this place negatively, as a dumping ground for their life issues...
One sure way of giving prominence to your own views is to gag opposing views.
It's like saying 'people can say what they like - providing they agree with me'...
It depends entirely on how responsibly it's used....and how rational parties are you're dealing with...
I have been blacklisted for over a year on any of kitty's threads for posting one comment on kittys thread pointing out her erratic nonsense behaviour which was not only driving me nuts...but judging from the karma and pm communication...many others in the community. It was not nasty....just...matter of fact.....and was followed by a long period of time when kitty seemed to knuckle down and concentrate on her skinning and improve and achieve over this time.........I was absolutely stunned I had been blacklisted from that moment on....and there never has been any explanation or communication on the matter. The bottom line is...kitty has never been able to take criticism....it has always been met defensively/resentfully....and it is my observation...she has always been coddled through this and never been forced to grow into a person who can deal with these situations....hence...where we are now...with all this BS....because one person, can't accept criticism in the spirit it is meant and has to head for the cotton wool brigade.
Wouldn't it be wonderful....if we could all pull the 'chic card'...and post threads saying females are treated differently on WC...we don't get a fair go...we don't get promoted equally...blah blah blah... to be assured that no one in future will be politically incorrect enough to give us a hard time...about anything...
Then we can pull the 'mental health card'...explaining away our bad behaviour....on anything we feel like trashing at the time... hmmm...community skinning projects...etc etc...
There are many people here with stories I have read that have left me in tears as to how they cope with life....they don't post them as an excuse for bad behaviour....or to manipulate....they are genuine...
If anyone is offended by the content of this post...don't worry...there'll be the apology thread tomorrow....explaining how I was hormonal, my budgie Nigel died....and I'm overwhelmed by climate change/global warming...
now...here's an idea....why don't we all just get back to skinning....and trying to enjoy ourselves...
