I tried 3v3 DG with 2 friends tonight and we spent ~3 hours to play 2 games, one of which lasted about 5 minutes because of leavers. It's just not a good experience because getting a game going often takes longer than playing the game when you are trying to play with a small group of friends.
And what is truly annoying is that we could be playing games much more easily if we just pirated the game, since 95% of the games on gameranger contain pirates and getting a 3v3 going on there proved to be pretty difficult. I imagine a goal Stardock has is to make Demigod worth buying for pirates, but at this point its tempting to uninstall and just play an older version so we can get more games in less time on gameranger.
My friends are more exasperated with this than me. We all really like the game, but as my brother puts it, he's not sure its worth the effort. I'm confident it will be improved over time, but it hasn't improved much at all since the day after launch for me. Still not so smooth.
is 5v5 with 5 friends even possible? That'd be like climbing mount everest.