you can try to contact stardock support service, opening ports can also help. And the netcode update that should solve most of the remaining problems should come soon, so you can also wait (quoting frogboy it is a matter of days).

You are welcome  .

and you should totally try the new beta update (http://forums.demigodthegame.com/350037), and report to the devs if it doesn't solve your problems. Stardock has a remarkable way of seeing things, they don't just release the game, take the money and run, but they try to give the best support possible. So don't hesitate and contact them if the next update doesn't solve your problems.