It is frustrating... But I've been playing and I CONSTANTLY see Stardock guys on the irc helping as many people as they can, I can't get to upset when I see them answering as many questions as humanly possible, and even setting up custom games to help people who's connection problems are actually their fault.
I don't think it will takes months to fix the MP stuff... I think they will get it sorted out soon.
With all that being said, the game is extremely enjoyable when you play it, and when everything gets sorted out I'm sure everyone will agree.