Roy,
You can also increase the amount of anti-matter the colony ship has, or the restore rate. I have done this myself, as in some battles my abilities were grayed out most of the time, especially in large fleet battles. So i increased it, but like you did, i did it for all races. The end result was i jumped into a gravity well and was attacked immediately, but was able to fight off the first several waves, which gave me time to get some re-inforcements in. Also, one or two abilities would dip down into gray under heavy heavy fire from the enemy, but one at a time. That was nice, instead of dying immediately.
I guess this makes me a mediocre player, but to be honest i play solo almost exclusively, and for that, enjoyment is my number one priority. Others crave competition, and thats ok for them, but i like not dying right off the bat. 
Keeps me playing the game and enjoying it too. 
Take care and have fun, and mod it the way you feel is best.
-Teal