Oh wait, I can now almost see the shadow of the Monk, tell me my friend are you working for Ironclad ? or maybe Stardock ?

No I do not work for SD or IC, but tell me....does one have to work for them in order to help them or others?
If for example it says at the upper right that 200 people are online and you see only 15 people in the lobby and 3 games listed the following is fact.
All but the 15 of you in the lobby are already IN-GAME. All started, in-progess games are no longer shown (therefore not joinable) and the people in those games are also no longer shown in the lobby.
Having said that, there are definately peak/lull times and you may happen to be online mostly during the non-peak times.
Besides patch 1.1 will (according to what I've been told) give an optional NAT-T type of connection method that will "tunnel" past routers/firewalls so all of you who cannot/don't want to/can't be bothered to host games right now should be able to using the "encapsulated netcode" method. I'm just glad it'll be "optional" because as always having things "tunnel" past my controls isn't exactly a soothing thought...hehe
thanks,
the Monk
Oh, and for anyone having problems hosting? Download, read/follow the guide step-by-step (don't skip pages/steps and then come back bitching that it doesn't work...

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http://www.kiclan.com/monk/Networking_and_SINS_by_the_Monk.pdf