OK, so reading through this thread here:
WWW Link and I find myself in complete agreement, the diplomacy can kill you.
So here's my answer, I've created a new mod that tones down and adjusted the parameters for quests as follows:
Quests failed lose between 1-3 points depending on some parameters.
Quests completed still award the same points as before.
Quests now only get awarded every 8 minutes as opposed to every 3 minutes before.
So the net result is that you can now almost (but not quite!) ignore the quests without having swarms of pissed off raiders at your doorsteps. The quests won't stack up so fast and if you choose to complete them it's still the same goodness as before.
Here is the link for the mod:
LazySumo's Quest AdjustmentThe checksum is:1679165
Put it into your mod folder and enable via the ingame menu. I am just now setting up a game to test in multiplayer, I'm assuming that both machines need the mod enabled. Also, I don't believe it will work with games saved before the mod was enabled. The only time I tried it, the game crashed to desktop.