this was REALLY annoying
My fix = click on the nearest planet, then click on the fleet(s) you want to move.
i don't believe a bug, just an annoying default: since the game lets you select multiple ships/fleets to move at once, if one group is highlighted, and you click on a second group, the first group is still selected by default
it would be helpful if the default was to only select multiple groups by holding a shift key or something.